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“I had been feeling quite low, as had recently ended a long-term relationship, and he came up to me and said something like 'you're a bit less hot than your friend, but it's OK, because I fancy you.' Obviously I am a smart, intelligent, confident and successful woman, so should have thrown something at him; but instead I was charmed.“Anyway, at his house I found he had a spreadsheet of all the women he was seeing, colour coded with days and nights.Some of the creepier or more aggressive users have been on the more unpleasant websites, and have used the inherent hatred of women they found there to confirm their loneliness.

Language has power, and if every interaction with the opposite sex is coloured by a certain vernacular set – in this case the metaphors are all militaristic or hunting ones, perhaps with video games as their origin – then that is likely to colour the way the people who use it think about women at a fundamental level, even if they did not already think of them in this way. The description might be unpleasant, but what is being described is actually quite close to how ordinary flirtatious conversation works.The really odd thing is that the conclusion Strauss reaches in , the holy bible of pick-up artists, is that picking up women is a lonely, empty, mechanical life. Strauss ends the book in a healthy relationship, which he is clear he arrived at despite – not because of – his tactical approach. I speak to Rebecca*, who admits that she fell for negging when it was used on her in a bar. Hers wasn’t that high to begin with.” It seems, though, that these tactics can sometimes work.